Friday, March 30, 2007

Dispensability ...

Well we are all special… a lot of thought goes into being ourselves … what we say , what we do, what we wear…our attitudes, our thinking, our values, our aspirations, our reactions … our job, our relationships ..

But are we that important???Or are we dispensable, easily dispensable …

Say tomorrow morning you, while still in bed, you decide you should quit your job. If you do, what happen… someone else will be hired do the work assigned to you. Your employers/clients will find someone … sooner or later … not as good or as good or better but by no means will any work be left undone. And this dispensability is both ways, tomorrow if you are asked to discontinue your job, it will be a change … but then you will move on. You are capable to doing the same job for someone else or some other job.

Same goes for personal life… if you think you are the centre point of someone’s life and he/she will directionless or devastated without you … try to move away … you will be surprised how … nobody is confounded …but they are enlightened that you are superfluous… this replaceability is again both ways …

Life is a like surface of a water body ...if a bucket full is scooped out …the rest of the water will come and fill… there is never a crater left on the surface

This perception is both humbling and relieving … and insightful … how we attach too much unnecessary importance to ourselves …

Monday, March 26, 2007

Be glad it happened …

Yesterday it rained. The skies were grey and the green leaves sparkled. It was beautiful. The rains washed the landscape, settled the dust and filled the air soothing moisture. And after the rain, the drops continued to hit the ground, from the trees. It seemed that the trees liked the rain so much that they wanted to hold on to the experience, even when it was over.
Why we don’t do this? Why we see only pain when its over…be it marriage, relationships, job or any other experience that could have continued.
Some people describe a broken marriage by saying “two years of my life wasted”. They don’t consider many moments, like when they walked the aisle, when they laughed till their eyes were filled with tears, when they waited for someone and someone waited for them, when they felt needed.
The meaning of life can be found only in moments. These moments are overlooked, when something ends. At times, we try to undo those moments intentionally, removing the gifts and pictures from our sight and not talking about what we shared except complains. We assume this will bring down the pain that we lost something significant, but it just exaggerates the feeling of betrayal and bitterness and make us block some beautiful memories.
When we don’t have an option to get back what we lost, the why not cherish the moments we lived... once ...